Almost all the human contradictions are outcomes of conditional relationships. In conditional relationships the divine togetherness is impossible. Hence enjoyment of life becomes a mirage.
Today, there is anarchy in every field of human endeavour: science, economics, parenting, education, marketing, politics, sex, family and so on. All over the world immoral people are talking about moral values. Family relationship has become another legal agreement based on a policy of give and take. There is a myth in the minds of logical people that they can hold the family together through a legal agreement. However, no external pressure can decide the flow of inner love. Particularly, self-centred values do not have a right to decide the sacredness of heavenly togetherness. Otherwise one's own inner mechanism will give birth to the reptiles of the mind and will disturb the network of heart. This is the Truth of human inner space. The entire human race has suffered because of this powerful inner turmoil. One who understands this will lead a life of excellence. Others are more dead than alive.
These days, each family relationship is functioning based on the Absorption or Adsorption theory of 'Surface chemistry'. According to surface chemistry, absorption is a process in which one substance takes another substance into it. Adsorption is a process in which a substance takes another substance on its surface. That is, in absorption the molecules penetrate into the body of the solid, whereas in adsorption, they remain only on the surface. For example, if a piece of sponge is dipped in ink, it absorbs because ink reaches the interior of the sponge. On the other hand, if a chalk or crayon is dipped in ink, it adsorbs ink. Here, the ink remains only on the surface.
In most families, only the surface relation exists, just like adsorption. Husband and wife lie to each other to project themselves as perfect ones, but internally they suffer because of the inner complexity of their own hidden and exhibiting minds. The hidden mind wanders, but the exhibiting mind conceal and pretend only to deceive. In this crucial context, one can psychologically exit from this stressful zone only after discerning the eternal beauty and the infinite brilliance of absorption.
To attain this state of excellence, a transparent and honest relationship is a must. Only in such a relationship one can enjoy the completeness of life. One, who realizes this ego-free state, enjoys the life in totality and arrives at the highest peak of human excellence. Others only amble along on the surface of life and suffer internally.
Love and sex are the concepts of a single soul dwelling in two bodies. It is the union of two incomplete halves to become one. Psychological, biological and physical vibrations of sex, love and marriage decide the civilized existence of the society. If the sexual life of humanity is not functioning in a proper manner then the entire human race will experience severe disorder. It will cause the moral destruction of the society. They are deciding factors of healthy and blissful human life and control the entire body mechanism like breath of life. Therefore, our learned sages always enlightened the people regarding the true glory and infinite happiness of heavenly togetherness. Every historical experience has taught us that living together with unconditional love and truth is the highest ocean of bliss to which no happiness will be comparable.
If one has to enter the blissful zone in love, sex or marriage then the death of selfishness should occur in the deeper roots of the mind. Otherwise, selfish and calculative behaviour pattern of envy, ego and hatred will not permit humanity to enjoy life as a whole. W. H. Auden says, “Almost all our relationships begin, and most of them continue, in the form of mutual exploitation - a mental or physical barter - to be terminated when one or both run out of goods”.
Nowadays, children have become almost like packaged products. Parents give them only a dosage of prestige, ego and status. If they continue this practice, then children will not get a due share of time for themselves. They will become busy changing masks to protect their prestige. But, there is no prestige higher than the Truth.
Therefore, there is a need to understand the relationships of absorption, for the qualitative elevation of future generations. This can contribute towards a wholesome life of our children. Otherwise, they will become victims of their parent's frustrations, anxiety, loneliness, ego, envy, grudges and so on.
In our future journey, let us remember that the quality of enjoyment is an outcome of the quality of involvement, but no one can teach us how to involve. Involvement is an outcome of the inner purity and inner purity is more sacred and powerful than the outward dignity.